The Mortality Paradox

 They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I think that’s a load of poppycock, most of the time at least.

I don’t love often so when I do, I fall hard, really hard – matter of fact I’ve only truly loved once and there’s not a thing on this planet or any other that I wouldn’t have done for her. That said, I wanted to spend literally every waking moment with her and why not, she’s dope. So anyway, I think all this absence thing is all a matter of perspective.

Take the 7-month lockdown back in 2020 for instance: did your relationship see it through? PS I’m terribly sorry for attacking you like that. In a scenario like that, it’s the longing to see them and hug them again that keeps you going honestly. Long distance relationships require constant, sometimes exhausting care. Constant phone calls, video calls, sometimes being mad at them just because you miss them so much it hurts. It’s all worth it however when you finally get to plant a big one on their lips eventually.

On the opposite end of the spectrum, plain old distance with less and less communication is chapter 1 on how to put out even the brightest of sparks. Each passing day just makes you grow further and further apart. With time you start forgetting how they smell, what their laugh sounds like – which sucks by the way. Days turn into weeks and week into months and you are just a mirage of what you used to be. What was flames and fireworks can’t even start a fire leave alone glow.

I think it all boils down to how you handle said distance. Always remember life is too short not to be happy. Do what or whoever makes you happy.

_storyteller.